Ok, not sure if you believe in this but I'm going to say this anyway because it is oddly relevant. According to the "Animal Spirit Guides" (by S.D. Farmer), call on a bee if "you're engaged in a project that requires persistence and perseverance in order to see it through to completion"... ok... I DID NOT call on the bees... I really didn't... perhaps I should have, and apparently the universe called for me because the bees arrived on Friday... not a few bees, but THOUSANDS of bees! I look out my window, and the air in front of my house is filled with a massive swarm of bees. They proceed to make themselves at home in a bush on the corner of my property, perhaps 20 feet away from my window... Humm... so me being me, I go and look at the animal spirit guide book out of curiosity (and a need for some cosmic explanation because that makes it all the more interesting), and it said that if bees show up it means:
"it's time to get organized and get to work on that idea that you want to implement and develop....approach your projects with commitment, diligence, and dedication, this is a very productive cycle for you, so stay with whatever you're working on, and there will be a favorable outcome"
(aka : get off facebook and get your PhD moving ahead already!)... wow, ok... thanks for that - I nice letter in the post would have sufficed (other than the letter b ... sorry, couldn't resist that one... anyway, moving on...
Probably good that a gila monster didn't show up because that would mean "don't start any new major projects until the timing is more appropriate"... and that's been my excuse for ages now so there was no need for that one to show up... although it would have been rather affirming...
Lucky for me, I live in a groovy little community where all I needed to do was post on our local facebook page (seeeeee, I knew I had to stay on there for some reason!) that the bees had arrived, and in 15 minutes, I had someone come over in their bee suit (seriously, I live in the coolest village) and remove the swarm and give them a happy home.
Funny enough, another person from the village had also posted that his swarm had disappeared (who knew that many people here were that bee literate?!)... I find it rather funny that someone would even post that their bees have gone awol... like a run away dog... lost: swarm of bees, around 50,000, don't come when called, yellow and black, make buzzing noise...
Here's another interesting me/bee fact - this is not the first time that this has happened to me. The last house I lived in was also visited by a swarm of bee right outside of my front door. What are the odds?
and a final me/bee fact: my name means honey bee in Greek:
So there you have it - two bees or not two bees (more like too many bees)... if that was the question...
I had a thought today... right after a received 2 emails from old friends from afar and one from not very far (the magic of leaving FB strikes again), who commented that they would miss my posts.
Hmmmm
That got me thinking. FB is a problem for me in the "time waster, browse for hours looking at meaningless posts, reading complete strangers profiles who attract my attention because they know someone I know" kind of way. However, it's not a problem when I think about people out there enjoying what I post. I found that the second I deleted my profile, I first thought, "hmmm, now where will I post my "notice the beauty" (NTB) photos (I'll tell you more about that later), and secondly I thought, "really - so do I really need to eliminate the entire profile? Isn't that a bit extreme?"
why can't it just sit there. unobserved. or... why can't I just use it as a place to receive messages... or see what's happening on the village group page or... or...oooh it's a slippery slope
I'll tell you why - because it's shiny. and I'm curious (aka nosy for knowledge)... and very distractible lately. It's like the dog in the movie "Up"... I'm doing my thing, focused on this thing I'm doing, then click, "squirrel!"... my attention is on something else.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SSUXXzN26zg
Facebook is my squirrel.
Where is the self control that I thought would come as an adult? Many times I have looked up from my computer/ipad to tell my kiddo that she shouldn't have her ipod/a computer/an ipad attached to her at all times and that there must be something better for her brain to be doing... then turn back to the "work" I was doing... but... um...
I have research that I am meant to be doing. Seriously... I am trying to do a PhD... and I like the topic... and I am excited about doing this... and I... Squirrel!!
Sorry, what was I saying....
anyway, I've decided that my new experiment is to see how well I do with the knowledge that FB is there, my profile is there... I can post things (like this blog) or my NTB observations (yes, I will explain that) remotely... without ever looking at the actual website... I need rules, boundaries... a shock collar perhaps... that will zap me if I go to the page more than once a day ... for more than 5 minutes.
... I've just figured out that I can post photos here... so maybe this can be my new outlet for NTB...
perhaps I should explain...
A few, months ago, I was noticing that I was focusing my attention on a lot of negative junk and wasn't noticing the good stuff around me ... and it's EVERYWHERE... and I don't mean stuff like being grateful I'm alive or that I have a roof over my head or that I'm healthy. That kind of stuff I do generally notice. It's the other stuff...
like the gum shaped like a heart on the foot path on my way to university...
or the accordion tee shirt in the pile of second hand clothing...
or the weird little plant I pass everyday on the way to kiddo's bus stop...
so I started noticing these bits of beauty all around me, and looked for it... and posted my daily findings... and that made me noticeably more peaceful and I would even say cheerful... it occupied my mind with the good stuff... and stopped me ruminating about dreary stuff that really wasn't necessary to think about at that moment... and so, the NTB project was born. and was going well for quite some time...
I just posted a previous blog entry about leaving facebook on December 22, 2012... well, that didn't last very long... in fact, nearly one year later, I'm fully entrenched into the old addiction. And in combination with being back on a dating site, it's a wonder I even manage to get dressed in the morning because of the amount of time and energy I put into mindlessly browsing. I even created a twitter account telling myself that is was a clever new way of connecting with people. Except that most people on twitter weren't aware of my existence...or followed me so that it would add to their own list of followers. They weren't interested in my (self proclaimed) clever views on life, on my daily quotes meant to fill them with warm fuzzy feelings and thoughts, or in me. So that soon became boring. At least with a blog, I can ramble at length without a word count limit.
But here's what I'm noticing as I decide, once again, to leave social media. I am terrified of leaving social network sites because I'm afraid I will drift into an abyss... an abyss that has minimal human contact other than myself, my daughter, and the occasional person I run into on the street, work or school. I will miss out on what's going on in the community, I will miss out on what's going on around the world... because that's the way people communicate now. I'll miss out on the free piles of wood that someone is leaving on the curb tomorrow because I didn't see the post informing me it was going to be there. I won't know that it's x, y or z's birthday or that they are having a good day. I won't know that "w" just got engaged, or that "y", who lives overseas, had a baby (or was even pregnant!). I won't know that "r" was sick, or that "c" died... and that scares me.
You my say that if I was really close to those people, I'd know all of that information anyway... but I've been a traveller for the majority of my adult life. I've lived in several countries and many many different towns. Facebook has become a way for me to keep in touch with everyone from my past and make them more of my present - rather than merely a fond memory...
But there is a dark side for me. Social media becomes a place that I lose myself, I don't deal with the present (or with myself more precisely) and I can hide in mindless hours of surfing other people's pages, looking for something, but finding that I only end up feeling more alone, unsatisfied, and somehow lacking.
Dating sites are the worst for me, because I know that people are looking at my profile, yet they still ignore me or don't respond to me... so I replace my profile picture... many times... with a smilier, more serious, sexier, sportier, more casual, more professional, photo, all in the hopes that perhaps the reason I wasn't getting messaged was because my picture was too (or not) x,y, or z. Obviously, I'm going to lose my membership card to "feminist women of the world" now that I've admitted that I self objectify...And then I start to judge myself as I think others are judging me. Well F**k you mr Sincere123 if you can't see that I'm worth talking to.
So, despite being afraid to leave, while disliking that I was staying... I must take a break. My ego needs a break... and my life needs to focus on what's right in front of me (or inside my own head) and the people around me...for a while anyway...
A post from another blog I write which I'm now combining into one:
I'm noticing the good life...
Well this has been an amazing time... the reason I haven't posted is because, honestly, my life has gotten so much richer and more interesting since I left Facebook. Coincidence? Maybe... but the day I deactivated the account I got a call from a great friend in Germany and a surprise visit from folks who I haven't seen in years who happened to be passing through the area where I live... the universe was saying "look into the real world for real people and they are there..." ... at least that's my interpretation of it.
so many weird and wonderful things have been going on lately and they all involve people and connection and I am really enjoying it...
I have a confession though - I did log in today because I needed to send someone a message and didn't have their email address. In doing this, I was briefly drawn into reading this that and the other thing, but soon deactivated after hearing back from her. Mission accomplished - moving on.
Another thing I'm noticing is how much Facebook had become part of my daily routine. Kind of like smoking... wake up, look at facebook. Eat... look at facebook afterwards... do anything... look at facebook afterwards for a break... I do miss our little community trading post, and am tempted to go back just for that, but I will resist for now.
I am enjoying the people and the lack of computer time... and the things that I am doing instead (swimming in the sea... walking the dog with my kiddo... doing cryptic crosswords... meeting up with friends...talking to friends) ...
Life is good (well, it always was - I'm just noticing it a bit more now)
